You want to change ? Read this method and Apply :-)
Make your life depends ... not of what happens to you ... but of your response to it "
If the same problem occurs AGAIN (This is your vow to change?) ... If it prevents you, AGAIN, from being fully satisfied and balanced in your life ... I guess you've always been "over reacting" the same way for long !!
So, it is the moment to change. Start now responding WELL to a NEGATIVE repeated action. That will gradually reverse this bad trend...
With hindsight :
Think about the situation to change,
Analyze your own reactive behavior,
Decide what new behavior to apply.
1 rule : make your choice with Love for you and Respect for others.
During the situation :
DO NOT think at all
It will first appear difficult to do. This is normal since you are still stuck in old overflowing emotions which are convinced to do their best for you.
They are nice (thanks!) but wrong anyway. If they were right, you would not call it "a problem" and you would not feel, HERE, something stuck in your body (Oops, a cold!). This is a "Management Change". After the third time, you will see first results. It will be easier to apply. After the 6th time, you will have resolved the main part of your problem.
AND will have fulfilled your vow!
You want to apply this method to all obstacles ? Then, you will be, radiant, on the way to Inner Peace :-)