As a California mom
you probably also are a super mom !!
Aways seeking for ways to spoil your children,
and make them happy.
I HAVE A GIFT FOR THEM.
A gift that could truly change their lives:-)
Here is the observation I heard from one of my clients :
"I noticed my 2 sons are sometimes overwhelmed by their emotions."
(Are you also distraught seeing this??)
So we looked ... and while analyzing these nasty frights,
we suddenly realized and understood that, actually,
some of them belonged to her.
1) This is why her sons did not include how they are feeling.
2) This is also why she was so annoyed by their feelings.
Here is an example for clarity:
Her own father disappeared when she was little.
She has long suffered from fear of abandonment.
Let's call it: "Desertion".
It is really sad but, in her case, it makes sense.
There are causes that correspond to the effects.
But the fact her eldest son also suffers from this emotion,
even though, she and her husband, have always been extremely present,
is not logical.
These effects have no causes.
THEN, HERE IS MY GIFT :
(Are you also distraught seeing this??)
So we looked ... and while analyzing these nasty frights,
we suddenly realized and understood that, actually,
some of them belonged to her.
1) This is why her sons did not include how they are feeling.
2) This is also why she was so annoyed by their feelings.
Here is an example for clarity:
Her own father disappeared when she was little.
She has long suffered from fear of abandonment.
Let's call it: "Desertion".
It is really sad but, in her case, it makes sense.
There are causes that correspond to the effects.
But the fact her eldest son also suffers from this emotion,
even though, she and her husband, have always been extremely present,
is not logical.
These effects have no causes.
THEN, HERE IS MY GIFT :
"HOW TO RELEASE OUR CHERUBIMS
FROM OUR OWN BURDENS "
FROM OUR OWN BURDENS "
It is a very significant gift in 2 parts.
The facts:
The high sensitivity of your children allows them to tap into your feelings
and it makes them suffer the discomfort without understanding the cause.
They are "extremely powerful emotional sponges"
completely able to absorb the strong emotions
of their parents (you or your husband).
And this is the point !
If these emotions are so strong and loaded
it is because they are not digested.
You buried them deep inside yourself... Actually, you thought so.
Hidden, often denied,
(Desertion, Go sleeping !!)
they however became powerful
and now radiate an energy that your children pick up.
The facts:
The high sensitivity of your children allows them to tap into your feelings
and it makes them suffer the discomfort without understanding the cause.
They are "extremely powerful emotional sponges"
completely able to absorb the strong emotions
of their parents (you or your husband).
And this is the point !
If these emotions are so strong and loaded
it is because they are not digested.
You buried them deep inside yourself... Actually, you thought so.
Hidden, often denied,
(Desertion, Go sleeping !!)
they however became powerful
and now radiate an energy that your children pick up.
Action
1)
Look consciously the "rise up" of YOUR emotions,
and, even, give them a name,
(Desertion, Here you are !!).
Thus, you will immediately decrease the unpleasant effects :
1) in your body (less painful tensions),
2) in your thoughts (less disasterous scenarios),
3) in the unconscious path from you to your children.
Seeing you that way,
your children will also be aware and
(PROMISE)
these very smart and clever people
will let you manage your own Hot Potatoes !!
Look consciously the "rise up" of YOUR emotions,
and, even, give them a name,
(Desertion, Here you are !!).
Thus, you will immediately decrease the unpleasant effects :
1) in your body (less painful tensions),
2) in your thoughts (less disasterous scenarios),
3) in the unconscious path from you to your children.
Seeing you that way,
your children will also be aware and
(PROMISE)
these very smart and clever people
will let you manage your own Hot Potatoes !!
Action 2)
If your child is still suffering from your Hot Potato:
Take it back !!
SEE AND RECOGNIZE :
"SIC, but I AM the one who suffers from that, Darling.
Give it back to me quickly, I'll handle it as an adult.
(Desertion, together just two of us!!)
Please, my child, stay free and live your life !!
